What frustrates me abou the gay marriage debate is that there is never any thought, discussion, or attention paid to what the end results of all these great changes will be.

Gays, liberals, and progressives are always pushing for "change" and demanding significant and fundamental alterations to key elements of our society.  They do so because they, in their infinite (read woefully limited) wisdom, think the changes will make them feel better.  There's no thought on their part as to what the world will be like one these changes are widely adopted.  They have no evidence whatsoever that their changes will be a positive good for society as a whole in any objective sense.  They tear down what is, simply because they don't like it, with no thought as to why these societal structures exist, and no thought or concern as to what society will be like without those existing structures.  On the other hand, there's plenty of evidence that the changes already made have wrought havoc on our society, and there's some evidence that in particular, the open acceptance of homosexual behavior has been associated (I'm not stating a causative relationship, just an association) with the collapse of every great civilization in human history.  That alone would give us pause if we had any kind of historical sensibility or understanding.

My concern over gay marriage is not a phobia, nor is it irrational.  It is based on a healthy, rational distaste for the 100 years of supposedly unintended consequences progressivism has already given us, which in many ways have not benefitted our society nor made this country a better place to live.  To extent I'm afraid of gay marriage, I think there's a good argument that my fear is far more rational than your hope that your desired changes will bring about some sort of utopia.  Progressivism doesn't have a great track record on that so far.

Some of us like things the way they are (or were) and we need to stop apologizing for that. Most of us have good reason to like things the way they are, even if we don't.

We have a great country and a good and fair society that has provided more freedom, justice and fairness, more life, liberty and the ability to pursue freedom, to more individuals than any society in human history.  We have our flaws, and we made our mistakes, but we should stop apologizing, especially when in the face of demands that supposed injustices be redressed, we put at risk all the good that has been done. We are not a horribly unfair, unjust, mean, nasty society.  We certainly aren't that just because we don't allow gay marriage, regardless of what narcissistic morons like Perez Hilton think.

All of these cultural changes should be fought tooth and nail without concrete evidence that society as a whole would really benefit.  The risk of losing the good is too great.

The people who argue for these fundamental changes should be taken seriously, to the extent that they have so much in common with vandals, both the common kind and the kind that paid Rome a visit in 455 AD.